TOLONNNGG! MAT I SUNGGUH IMMATURE!! TOLONNNGG! MAT I SUNGGUH IMMATURE!!

ACTUALLY DARLING, TAK DAPAT DEN NAK MEMBANTU, TINGGALKAN JE (:
KAN SETTLE. HEHEHE.

nonono, don't be upset. Okay listen up ladies..
when you feel your Mat is immature:
ask yourself, WHY?

and if you think he tryna behave like one, tell him off. if not, pack your bag ladies and jomm!
jalan-jalan carik Mat(s)

LOVE
ALEESHA
typicalmatsays owner  ¶ 1:34:00 AM 0 Comments

  "Awak, kite sayaaannnng awak" How do you know if a Mat is in love with you?

Here are ten signs to look for to help you know if a man loves you. Not every Mat will do everything on the list but I'm getting this straight from my Mat friends so it must be pretty accurate! So korang nie boleh lah cuba-cuba lah hor, tengok lah if the Mat you're dating with dah masok trap (:

1. Does he tell you? Does he express his love? Mat(s) often don't say the words unless they feel it.

2. Does he look for excuses to be around you or communicate with you?

3. Does he stay interested after sex? Or is he interested in being with you even when there is not sexual intimacy?

4. Is he interested in your life? Or is the relationship all about him?

5. Does he put you first over BOLA?!?!? Mat(s) who are in love want to be with their lover more than they want to watch the next football game.

6. Does he long for you when you are not together? Does he text, call, or email you often just to connect?

7. Does he look for ways to surprise and delight you? Does he do nice things for you, bring your flowers, write cute notes, or give you little gifts?

8. Does he want to care for you? Does he what to help you and make you happy?

9. Does he invest in the relationship? Does he give his time, energy, and emotions to you?

10. Does he want to be emotionally intimate with you. Does the relationship consist of more than the superficial? Does he share his thoughts and feelings with you?

So, if you are wondering, look for the above signs and trust your instinct!

These tell sign mcm paham only my english. Ikotkan i asked my sister to repharse many of it. hehehe.

LOVE,
Aleesha
typicalmatsays owner  ¶ 2:19:00 PM 0 Comments

  Why we ladies tend to stay? Why do ladies stay with a not-so-great Mat(s)? Why do ladies stay when they are being abused? Why don't women leave when the Mat(s) is mean and rude?

I hear these questions frequently when people notice a lady remaining with a mean or cruel Mat. I also hear these questions from ladies in unhealthy or abusive relationships...women who want to leave but just "can't". So orang kate ni, bebual macam paham tapi tak tinggalkan langsung.

The answers are complex and multifaceted. Each situation differs and involves very particular and specific situations, beliefs, and circumstances.

Fear
Ladies often fear there will be physical harm if they leave, they will lose custody of their children bagi sape-sape yang dah khawin lah kan, or be negatively judged by family or friends. Many ladies fear they will not be able to support themselves, and have no where to go if they leave. Some ladies fear the unknown and would rather remain in an unhealthy situation than venture out on their own.

Duty
Some ladies believe they are failing if they give up. Others may feel they are responsible for the FAILED relationship and do not know what is or is not acceptable behavior. Some ladies feel sorry for their partner or believe they can make him better and help him to change. Nie part like hell _________.

Insecurity
Many ladies had their self-esteem damaged and do not know if they can manage outside the relationship. Many ladies are tired and lack the emotional support to help them leave. Some ladies are isolated with few friends or family involved in their lives. There are ladies who believe they will not find another Mat(s) so better to be with a horrible Mat(s) than not have a Mat(s) in her life.

Irrational beliefs
Some ladies don't leave because they keep thinking things will get better. After an incident, when the Mat apologizes, things are great and a lady may be hopeful that things will be different. Some ladies feel ashamed to admit the relationship is not working out, or they may feel guilty because her Mat has made her believe his abuse is her fault.

Actually kan semua couple boleh work through their problems and create a great relationship. itupon kalau you ader partner you yang boleh paham you, vice versa.

Having said this, I am also for keeping ladies safe, and for supporting a ladies decision to leave if her relationship is harming her. This is not easy for most ladies, BETOL?

LOVE,
ALEESHA
typicalmatsays owner  ¶ 1:22:00 AM 0 Comments

  Your worth is more than your body To all ladies who read this blog....

Your worth is not in the shape of your form or how sexually attractive you are to men.
In spite of the messages that inundate our culture, YOU are valuable because you are a human being.
You are worth respect and dignity because you are a person.
You deserve to be treated with decency and care because you exist.
Your body is just a form for you to bring the world the experience and unique gifts that only you can bring.
You are not here on this earth to be some sort of sexual stimulant to men.
You are not here on this earth to be nothing but a form for others to use.
You are here because you have something of value to contribute to the world.
You are here because the universe needs your talents and abilities.

Please understand, your worth is not measured by your measurements, your hair style, or what shows up on the scale.

Focus on who you are, find what it is that brings peace to your soul, give care and goodness to the world in
ways that give you a sense of your self.
Remember... you are a human being with a unique purpose in this world.  ¶ 3:01:00 AM 0 Comments

  Mat dah Khawin - BIG NO
If a Mat is married obviously he is NOT the one for you! Trust me on this. Like really do! He may want a fling, a little extra bit of fun on the side but he is not interested in you as an exlusive partner, a companion, or wife. Eventhough Islam do allow these filthy Mat(s) to have 4 wives.

No matter how many times he tells you, he loves you more than his wife, she is a witch, and you are the one for him... HE IS LYING! He is having a little fantasy at your expense! At the other hand you must be smart and not fall for his word.

Ader lah Al-Kisah yang pernah terjadi lah kan, I got to know this girl we named her "A" is going out with "I" and "I"- is a married man with one kid. "A" loves this "I" and these two humans act as if there is nothing wrong kissing in public when all the collegues tau lah si "I" ni dah khawin.
After si "I" dah dapat balik rumah uncle ngan "A": he goes around the workplace telling people how small "A" breast is like with a description of 'macam kuih pau je' how cruel. Thats what i mean by your expense.

Do not, under any circumstances fall for this as-old-as-the-hills deception.

Think about it, do you even want to be with someone who is cheating on his wife? What does that say about his moral character? His sense of decency? His ability to be honest, truthful, committed? What does it say about his sense of family, compassion, and concern for others?

It tells you loud and clear that he is a jerk! FREAKING BIG JERK.

Do not walk away from this type of Mat(s).... Run and when you run make sure you run as fast as you can.

with love,
Aleesha
typicalMATsays owner  ¶ 4:14:00 PM 0 Comments

  My boyfriend is way too old?! Hey awesome readers,

Aleesha here updating for typicalMATsays once again. Now now now, my topic today is sungguh panas sangat. Its about you being with a Mat whom is way older than you. like 10 years or maybe 7 or maybe 20? i don't know. I saje nak buat whole thing suspend jer ((:

Whatever Aleesha gonna type below is my very own opinion nothing gotta do with anyone okay darlings. Sape-sape yang rase tak happy with my thoughts, your opinion is very much welcome. Well why? coz age is a very sensitive issue ((:

So here goes nothing ...

If a Mat is twenty years older than you he is not interested in you
OK, he may be interested in using you but he is not interested in YOU.

I do not care what this Mat says, how convincing is his language, how cool he seems to be, he wants one thing and that thing is not a healthy emotional, equal, fulfilling partnership.
Now, let me just say, older Mat who embrace their age, experience, and maturity are COOL, well at least. What is not cool are those older Mat who use younger women to try to forget who they really are.

Best example for me to quote: PAKCIK PAKCIK DANGDUT GITU.

You can find a great Met who is interested in you; a Mat close to your age with whom you will have something in common!  ¶ 2:19:00 PM 0 Comments

  cycle of being used Aleesha here, writing in for TMS as usual. I've been hearing news how we ladies been used badly by our Mats. Be it through financial or sexual or simple companion.

If your self-esteem is strong and healthy, you are less likely to be used by any Mats in singapore(teehee).
Contrariwise, ladies with low self-esteem and feeling of insecurity and worthlessness are often vulnerable to the use and degradation of not-so-great Mat. This is what we call 'Mat takde masa depan'

Over and over I see young women with low self esteem who think that if a Mat gives them attention it means they are valuable. Or if they have sex with a Mat, then he will love them. Not so. Totally NO.
There is a big difference between a great Mat wanting to be with a lady (like you, you and you) , and a not-so-great Mat wanting to use whomever they can find for an hour or so. Ouh well, macam one night stand gitu.

We are valuable because we are a human being. Regardless of the views of all the Mat(s) in Singapore, you are important. You have unique talents, traits, and ideas that have nothing to do with how not-so-great Mat(s) view you sexually. Your worth is not dependent on a bunch of Mat(s) who want nothing more than someone to take care of their needs.

Here is what often happens...

1. A woman lacks self-esteem, feels unattractive, worthless or unappealing to all Mat(s).
2. She feels horrible about herself and thinks she is not worthy of a great Mat(s).
3. She takes unhealthy attention from any Mat(s) - Slaps forehead hard, who is in need of sexual pleasure.
4. She really wants a Mat to give her attention to help her feel valuable so she gives herself to whomever gives her a glance.

And so the cycle continues. Macam recycling bin gitu, uhhh macam gitu uh hidup korang nanti jadi.

How does a lady break the cycle?

You strengthen your self-esteem. You decide that you will not be taken advantage of again. You become strong and secure. You let go of the idea that your value is dependent on your sexual appeal to any Mat(s). You take back your strength.

I'm not suggesting it is easy. In truth it is often most difficult. But, until a lady decides she is not going to be used, she will continue to be vulnerable... she will continue to get hurt. Nanti dah pedih-pedih, sape mau pi layan kau? Mat sengkek2? no, they will leave you there.

Those Mat who use you are not the kind of Mat(s) you want to be with. They are not the type of Mat(s) who make for a great husband or long term partner. like duhhh~ takkan aku nak kena ajar ni part kan?
There are great Mat(s) out there (believe it or not) who want a healthy and happy relationship. There are great Mat(s) who won't take advantage of a vulnerable insecure woman eventhough i should say: only a handful are left still.

with love,
Aleesha.
typicalMATsays owner.  ¶ 2:06:00 AM 0 Comments