Do you know your MAT(s)
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
"Awak, kite sayaaannnng awak"
How do you know if a Mat is in love with you?
Here are ten signs to look for to help you know if a man loves you. Not every Mat will do everything on the list but I'm getting this straight from my Mat friends so it must be pretty accurate! So korang nie boleh lah cuba-cuba lah hor, tengok lah if the Mat you're dating with dah masok trap (:
1. Does he tell you? Does he express his love? Mat(s) often don't say the words unless they feel it.
2. Does he look for excuses to be around you or communicate with you?
3. Does he stay interested after sex? Or is he interested in being with you even when there is not sexual intimacy?
4. Is he interested in your life? Or is the relationship all about him?
5. Does he put you first over BOLA?!?!? Mat(s) who are in love want to be with their lover more than they want to watch the next football game.
6. Does he long for you when you are not together? Does he text, call, or email you often just to connect?
7. Does he look for ways to surprise and delight you? Does he do nice things for you, bring your flowers, write cute notes, or give you little gifts?
8. Does he want to care for you? Does he what to help you and make you happy?
9. Does he invest in the relationship? Does he give his time, energy, and emotions to you?
10. Does he want to be emotionally intimate with you. Does the relationship consist of more than the superficial? Does he share his thoughts and feelings with you?
So, if you are wondering, look for the above signs and trust your instinct!
These tell sign mcm paham only my english. Ikotkan i asked my sister to repharse many of it. hehehe.
LOVE,
Aleesha
typicalmatsays owner ¶ 2:19:00 PM 0 Comments
Here are ten signs to look for to help you know if a man loves you. Not every Mat will do everything on the list but I'm getting this straight from my Mat friends so it must be pretty accurate! So korang nie boleh lah cuba-cuba lah hor, tengok lah if the Mat you're dating with dah masok trap (:
1. Does he tell you? Does he express his love? Mat(s) often don't say the words unless they feel it.
2. Does he look for excuses to be around you or communicate with you?
3. Does he stay interested after sex? Or is he interested in being with you even when there is not sexual intimacy?
4. Is he interested in your life? Or is the relationship all about him?
5. Does he put you first over BOLA?!?!? Mat(s) who are in love want to be with their lover more than they want to watch the next football game.
6. Does he long for you when you are not together? Does he text, call, or email you often just to connect?
7. Does he look for ways to surprise and delight you? Does he do nice things for you, bring your flowers, write cute notes, or give you little gifts?
8. Does he want to care for you? Does he what to help you and make you happy?
9. Does he invest in the relationship? Does he give his time, energy, and emotions to you?
10. Does he want to be emotionally intimate with you. Does the relationship consist of more than the superficial? Does he share his thoughts and feelings with you?
So, if you are wondering, look for the above signs and trust your instinct!
These tell sign mcm paham only my english. Ikotkan i asked my sister to repharse many of it. hehehe.
LOVE,
Aleesha
typicalmatsays owner ¶ 2:19:00 PM 0 Comments
Sunday, July 11, 2010
Why we ladies tend to stay?
Why do ladies stay with a not-so-great Mat(s)? Why do ladies stay when they are being abused? Why don't women leave when the Mat(s) is mean and rude?
I hear these questions frequently when people notice a lady remaining with a mean or cruel Mat. I also hear these questions from ladies in unhealthy or abusive relationships...women who want to leave but just "can't". So orang kate ni, bebual macam paham tapi tak tinggalkan langsung.
The answers are complex and multifaceted. Each situation differs and involves very particular and specific situations, beliefs, and circumstances.
Fear
Ladies often fear there will be physical harm if they leave, they will lose custody of their children bagi sape-sape yang dah khawin lah kan, or be negatively judged by family or friends. Many ladies fear they will not be able to support themselves, and have no where to go if they leave. Some ladies fear the unknown and would rather remain in an unhealthy situation than venture out on their own.
Duty
Some ladies believe they are failing if they give up. Others may feel they are responsible for the FAILED relationship and do not know what is or is not acceptable behavior. Some ladies feel sorry for their partner or believe they can make him better and help him to change. Nie part like hell _________.
Insecurity
Many ladies had their self-esteem damaged and do not know if they can manage outside the relationship. Many ladies are tired and lack the emotional support to help them leave. Some ladies are isolated with few friends or family involved in their lives. There are ladies who believe they will not find another Mat(s) so better to be with a horrible Mat(s) than not have a Mat(s) in her life.
Irrational beliefs
Some ladies don't leave because they keep thinking things will get better. After an incident, when the Mat apologizes, things are great and a lady may be hopeful that things will be different. Some ladies feel ashamed to admit the relationship is not working out, or they may feel guilty because her Mat has made her believe his abuse is her fault.
Actually kan semua couple boleh work through their problems and create a great relationship. itupon kalau you ader partner you yang boleh paham you, vice versa.
Having said this, I am also for keeping ladies safe, and for supporting a ladies decision to leave if her relationship is harming her. This is not easy for most ladies, BETOL?
LOVE,
ALEESHA
typicalmatsays owner ¶ 1:22:00 AM 0 Comments
I hear these questions frequently when people notice a lady remaining with a mean or cruel Mat. I also hear these questions from ladies in unhealthy or abusive relationships...women who want to leave but just "can't". So orang kate ni, bebual macam paham tapi tak tinggalkan langsung.
The answers are complex and multifaceted. Each situation differs and involves very particular and specific situations, beliefs, and circumstances.
Fear
Ladies often fear there will be physical harm if they leave, they will lose custody of their children bagi sape-sape yang dah khawin lah kan, or be negatively judged by family or friends. Many ladies fear they will not be able to support themselves, and have no where to go if they leave. Some ladies fear the unknown and would rather remain in an unhealthy situation than venture out on their own.
Duty
Some ladies believe they are failing if they give up. Others may feel they are responsible for the FAILED relationship and do not know what is or is not acceptable behavior. Some ladies feel sorry for their partner or believe they can make him better and help him to change. Nie part like hell _________.
Insecurity
Many ladies had their self-esteem damaged and do not know if they can manage outside the relationship. Many ladies are tired and lack the emotional support to help them leave. Some ladies are isolated with few friends or family involved in their lives. There are ladies who believe they will not find another Mat(s) so better to be with a horrible Mat(s) than not have a Mat(s) in her life.
Irrational beliefs
Some ladies don't leave because they keep thinking things will get better. After an incident, when the Mat apologizes, things are great and a lady may be hopeful that things will be different. Some ladies feel ashamed to admit the relationship is not working out, or they may feel guilty because her Mat has made her believe his abuse is her fault.
Actually kan semua couple boleh work through their problems and create a great relationship. itupon kalau you ader partner you yang boleh paham you, vice versa.
Having said this, I am also for keeping ladies safe, and for supporting a ladies decision to leave if her relationship is harming her. This is not easy for most ladies, BETOL?
LOVE,
ALEESHA
typicalmatsays owner ¶ 1:22:00 AM 0 Comments
