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Wednesday, April 7, 2010
HIATUS SOON.
typicalMATsays will be on hiatus from 12 April 2010 till 19 April 2010
Due to overwhelming responds from out fellow readers of typicalMATsays,
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The owner is changing the url to our own domain provided that we will find a proper vendor.
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peluk cium peluk cium ¶ 7:23:00 PM 0 Comments
Due to overwhelming responds from out fellow readers of typicalMATsays,
typicalMATsays will go offline for a week, to revamp and look new plus fresh for all!
The owner is changing the url to our own domain provided that we will find a proper vendor.
For now, lets be all informed on this matter. Spread the words aites?
xoxo,
typicalMATsays owner
peluk cium peluk cium ¶ 7:23:00 PM 0 Comments
Girls are superheros, just like her
From:________________________
Sent: 04 April 2010 17: 37PM
To: knowyourmats@hotmail.com
I apologise for the long post coming up but I needed somewhere to channel my thoughts and feelings. And I thought that this might help me to shake this excess baggage off my life and to give a heads up to other ladies out there not to totally trust a guy no matter how different from the others he portrayed himself to be.
I had just broken up from a 4 year relationship last year. It was a bittersweet ending for me as it was a mutual decision since both families couldn't really accept us. Upon regaining my freedom, I started to get back into night life to while away my weekends.
On a particular night out, a guy friend offered to party together. A harmless night out, so why not, I thought. This guy is actually a friend from someone from my past. The day after the party, we went out again for dinner and to chill by the Riverside. We opened up to each other about our lives and such. And then we started going out every single weekend since he's still in NS and only gets to book out then. He'd even fetch me if I were to go for my night life without him. Slowly but surely, the feelings were already starting to develop.
The day when we confessed our feelings for each other, he told me he liked my ways, the way I am, the way I perceive things. But he was unsure that someone like me would fall for him, would ever want him. He claimed that someone my age (I'm 2 years older than him, by the way), with looks and brains would only go for guys who are good looking, has a stable job, and of course, older than myself. But I told him that no one can predict when it comes to matters of the heart even though I admit that after going through a break up, I wasn't looking for any relationship at all. Until he came by. He told me that neither was he, or at least, he only goes for flings during his NS period since he said that no girl will endure a relationship when the guy couldn't even spend time for her. He got kinda insecure and kept asking me if I'll leave him because of the lack of attention. Time and again, I replied 'no' since I'm busy working on weekdays too. But just as long as he devotes as much of his weekends to me.
Since then, I had always looked forward to Fridays when he could book out and we'll spend time together. We didn't make it official that we're in a relationship but that's what we were to each other; a couple. Although he did mention that he wanted us to be official. Gut feelings told me to tell him that I just wasn't ready to commit. But he was the only one that I was seeing and contacting. And he told me that he understood and he knows that that day will come and no matter when, he wanted us to go on for as long as possible; and to give him 3 years to stabilise himself for my hand in marriage. He went all out to make me happy, didn't advanced on me sexually and all the other things which other guys always do. Our only physical contact was hugs and pecks on cheeks. Sweet, gentlemanly, different; my initial thought.
Until this particular week when the way he texted me was so different, so distant. No more loving messages, if there was even any message at all. During that same week, I was worried sick of my dad's health condition. Told him about it and he promised that he'll give me the tightest and longest hug when he meet me on that Friday. Imagine how much I was looking forward to that. And then, imagine my utter disappointment when I received his text informing me that he'll only get to book out the next day. However, my gut feelings told me that something was up, and that he was lyying. So I called him that night but he didn't answer any of my calls nor reply to my texts til the next day. His excuse was that he fell asleep.
My last text to him for that night was: "You know I hate liars. Kindly cook up a good story to back your ass up."
And I waited til the day he'll give me a proper explanation.
That Sunday night, we were talking on the phone when his voice changed. He said that he was feeling guilt ridden and had a confession to make but was afraid that I would leave him. And that confession which he made shattered me.
Him : Actually, I book out on Friday lepas.
Me : I know.
Him : Huh? How you know?
Me : Gut feeling. (Already know what was going to come up next.) Beh, jumpa siapa?
Him : Er, I jumpa ex I.
Me : And..?
Him : Er, and.. Something happened.
Me : Oh. (Silent for some time.) ... And..?
Him : And ape? Something happened lah and I feel guilty. Actually I taknak bilang you pasal takut you tinggalkan I tapi I taknak keep any secrets from you. So lau you nak tinggalkan I, I faham. But I'm sorry.
Me : Why are you sorry for? Obviously I meant nothing to you at all, which is why this happened in the first place.
Him : You do mean something, that's why I feel guilty. But this incident happened because I wanted sex. That's all. My ex tu pon bahan pakai je.
What a conversation aye? At this point of time, I didn't feel anger. But utter disappointment. And sorry. For him, for me and for that girl. And so the conversation continued as follows:
Me : So what the F*** do you want from me, and out of us now?
Him : I want a long and meaningful relationship with you.
Me : And what do you intend to do to at least rectify this problem?
Him : No plans. But I swear I won't do it again. But I sayangkan you sangat tu pasal I tak ask for sex from you. I taknak you think of me in a negative way.
Me : And I don't think negatively when you lied to me? When you went behind my back and have sex with your ex?!
And then I had that internal conflict within myself. I can't entirely blame him, we were not official. Technically, he was still free and single. But on the other hand, he told me that I was the only one he was contacting and meeting every week. And the fact that he lied about his book out date. It's also not fair that he should be doing that to me when it didn't even come across my mind to ever cheat on him.
So I gave him another chance. Only to get into another turmoil when his post invited this other girl to comment something about he should have consulted her before posting a wall post announcing that he wanted to change his bike. I mean, why should he consult anyone about his own bike? My antenna went up and picked up a negative vibe. And then his latest wall post on FB was: "I miss her but I hate her more." To which he confessed, was about a girl from his past who hurt him deeply but has came back into existence.
Crying, I told him to just go back to her. Since he obviously was thinking of her, and was contacting her. (Behind my back, I presume.) But he said he missed her but won't go back to her. And that all he wanted from the point of knowing me was me.
Somehow, I feel that no matter if he does go back to her or not, I still have to let go. I can't and won't deny that I love him but within a short time, he had hurt me in so many ways by just two incidents. I can't afford to go through another heartbreak. Thank God for my gut feeling. I just hope I'm strong enough to face weekends without him around anymore. Just as I thought I was picking up my broken pieces of my life, he came by to shatter it all over again.
And now, I'm really wary of guys. I'm too drained emotionally and mentally to layan karena diorang lagi.
TMS OWNER: Well darling, if you did read my entry about gut feelings, im sure you will feel alright. I did teach you readers how to trust your gut feeling. And if a guy whom you are dating is willing enough to call his ex up just to have sex with the ex-gf, be a lot more wary, coz you wouldn't know if you'll be the next one he will be calling up just to fufill his sex desire. Hugs!
XOXO,
typicalMATsays Owner
peluk cium peluk cium ¶ 7:17:00 PM 0 Comments
Sent: 04 April 2010 17: 37PM
To: knowyourmats@hotmail.com
I apologise for the long post coming up but I needed somewhere to channel my thoughts and feelings. And I thought that this might help me to shake this excess baggage off my life and to give a heads up to other ladies out there not to totally trust a guy no matter how different from the others he portrayed himself to be.
I had just broken up from a 4 year relationship last year. It was a bittersweet ending for me as it was a mutual decision since both families couldn't really accept us. Upon regaining my freedom, I started to get back into night life to while away my weekends.
On a particular night out, a guy friend offered to party together. A harmless night out, so why not, I thought. This guy is actually a friend from someone from my past. The day after the party, we went out again for dinner and to chill by the Riverside. We opened up to each other about our lives and such. And then we started going out every single weekend since he's still in NS and only gets to book out then. He'd even fetch me if I were to go for my night life without him. Slowly but surely, the feelings were already starting to develop.
The day when we confessed our feelings for each other, he told me he liked my ways, the way I am, the way I perceive things. But he was unsure that someone like me would fall for him, would ever want him. He claimed that someone my age (I'm 2 years older than him, by the way), with looks and brains would only go for guys who are good looking, has a stable job, and of course, older than myself. But I told him that no one can predict when it comes to matters of the heart even though I admit that after going through a break up, I wasn't looking for any relationship at all. Until he came by. He told me that neither was he, or at least, he only goes for flings during his NS period since he said that no girl will endure a relationship when the guy couldn't even spend time for her. He got kinda insecure and kept asking me if I'll leave him because of the lack of attention. Time and again, I replied 'no' since I'm busy working on weekdays too. But just as long as he devotes as much of his weekends to me.
Since then, I had always looked forward to Fridays when he could book out and we'll spend time together. We didn't make it official that we're in a relationship but that's what we were to each other; a couple. Although he did mention that he wanted us to be official. Gut feelings told me to tell him that I just wasn't ready to commit. But he was the only one that I was seeing and contacting. And he told me that he understood and he knows that that day will come and no matter when, he wanted us to go on for as long as possible; and to give him 3 years to stabilise himself for my hand in marriage. He went all out to make me happy, didn't advanced on me sexually and all the other things which other guys always do. Our only physical contact was hugs and pecks on cheeks. Sweet, gentlemanly, different; my initial thought.
Until this particular week when the way he texted me was so different, so distant. No more loving messages, if there was even any message at all. During that same week, I was worried sick of my dad's health condition. Told him about it and he promised that he'll give me the tightest and longest hug when he meet me on that Friday. Imagine how much I was looking forward to that. And then, imagine my utter disappointment when I received his text informing me that he'll only get to book out the next day. However, my gut feelings told me that something was up, and that he was lyying. So I called him that night but he didn't answer any of my calls nor reply to my texts til the next day. His excuse was that he fell asleep.
My last text to him for that night was: "You know I hate liars. Kindly cook up a good story to back your ass up."
And I waited til the day he'll give me a proper explanation.
That Sunday night, we were talking on the phone when his voice changed. He said that he was feeling guilt ridden and had a confession to make but was afraid that I would leave him. And that confession which he made shattered me.
Him : Actually, I book out on Friday lepas.
Me : I know.
Him : Huh? How you know?
Me : Gut feeling. (Already know what was going to come up next.) Beh, jumpa siapa?
Him : Er, I jumpa ex I.
Me : And..?
Him : Er, and.. Something happened.
Me : Oh. (Silent for some time.) ... And..?
Him : And ape? Something happened lah and I feel guilty. Actually I taknak bilang you pasal takut you tinggalkan I tapi I taknak keep any secrets from you. So lau you nak tinggalkan I, I faham. But I'm sorry.
Me : Why are you sorry for? Obviously I meant nothing to you at all, which is why this happened in the first place.
Him : You do mean something, that's why I feel guilty. But this incident happened because I wanted sex. That's all. My ex tu pon bahan pakai je.
What a conversation aye? At this point of time, I didn't feel anger. But utter disappointment. And sorry. For him, for me and for that girl. And so the conversation continued as follows:
Me : So what the F*** do you want from me, and out of us now?
Him : I want a long and meaningful relationship with you.
Me : And what do you intend to do to at least rectify this problem?
Him : No plans. But I swear I won't do it again. But I sayangkan you sangat tu pasal I tak ask for sex from you. I taknak you think of me in a negative way.
Me : And I don't think negatively when you lied to me? When you went behind my back and have sex with your ex?!
And then I had that internal conflict within myself. I can't entirely blame him, we were not official. Technically, he was still free and single. But on the other hand, he told me that I was the only one he was contacting and meeting every week. And the fact that he lied about his book out date. It's also not fair that he should be doing that to me when it didn't even come across my mind to ever cheat on him.
So I gave him another chance. Only to get into another turmoil when his post invited this other girl to comment something about he should have consulted her before posting a wall post announcing that he wanted to change his bike. I mean, why should he consult anyone about his own bike? My antenna went up and picked up a negative vibe. And then his latest wall post on FB was: "I miss her but I hate her more." To which he confessed, was about a girl from his past who hurt him deeply but has came back into existence.
Crying, I told him to just go back to her. Since he obviously was thinking of her, and was contacting her. (Behind my back, I presume.) But he said he missed her but won't go back to her. And that all he wanted from the point of knowing me was me.
Somehow, I feel that no matter if he does go back to her or not, I still have to let go. I can't and won't deny that I love him but within a short time, he had hurt me in so many ways by just two incidents. I can't afford to go through another heartbreak. Thank God for my gut feeling. I just hope I'm strong enough to face weekends without him around anymore. Just as I thought I was picking up my broken pieces of my life, he came by to shatter it all over again.
And now, I'm really wary of guys. I'm too drained emotionally and mentally to layan karena diorang lagi.
TMS OWNER: Well darling, if you did read my entry about gut feelings, im sure you will feel alright. I did teach you readers how to trust your gut feeling. And if a guy whom you are dating is willing enough to call his ex up just to have sex with the ex-gf, be a lot more wary, coz you wouldn't know if you'll be the next one he will be calling up just to fufill his sex desire. Hugs!
XOXO,
typicalMATsays Owner
peluk cium peluk cium ¶ 7:17:00 PM 0 Comments
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Once Bitten, Twice Shy
From : _______________
Date : 31 March 2010 05: 59AM
To : knowyourmats@hotmail.com
Dear TMS,
Today, was my first time reading your blog and I am not surprised to read stories about this mat cheating on that minah and that minah cheating on this mat and so on. Well, we've heard that story one time too many, stories that would make a true believer in love, a total cynic. I am, of course, speaking from experience. Believe me, I was a true believer in love and the total romance that comes with it, you know, surprise the girl with flowers at her door, writing songs for her and what not? I was all that, until I got together with this girl, N. I was a hopeless romantic, seriously. I was all about N, thinking about her 24/7, couldn't wait til the next time I'll be seeing her. However, that all changed over time.
One night, I tried calling N over and over again, texted her a million times and she didn't respond. I was freaking worried, seriously worried. I had half a mind to go over her place and check up on her until she texted me saying she accidentally fell asleep. I was ever so loving and said:
"Nvm syg.. you go back to sleep k? Muacks, I love you."
A couple of days later, she let it slip that she was actually out to town with her ex. I was furious. I was angry. But I loved her so I gave her another chance. I was so dumb.
There were a couple of things that b**** did along the way but I gotta share this other story.
We were supposed to meet one morning, but I didn't show up. Guess what that s*** did? Gave her ex a booty call!
To cut the story short, I was devastated by N and my beliefs in love were completely shattered.
Along the way, I changed into this other person completely. A player, a Casanova, whatever. I enjoyed the company and attention of women and the things we would do together. It was a colorful period in my life, though I can't quite say I'm proud of it.
One day, I started talking to this girl, K. She was my classmate back in high school actually. I thought I'd try my luck with her, try to get into her pants, so to speak. That worked out well, until I suggested to her that we just be friends with benefits. There was a reason why I suggested that. She was a player, and so was I. We would talk about our "victims" and laugh it off and shit. What I failed to realize was that she started to develop feelings for me. Needless to say, she left me for another guy, while I still keep on playing, thinking that she got bored of me.
However, after breaking up with that guy, I started talking to her again, hoping to score again. Things were working out great until I told her I'm still playing. So, she left again, for another guy, again. I thought I bored her, again. Genius, right?
After she broke up with that guy, we started talking again. This time, after much maturing, I decided to ask her why she kept disappearing like that. That was when all the outpouring of feelings happened. She told me she loved me from the beginning. Despite our playing, she decided that she loved me and still does. That was why she decided to give up her whole world for me but felt betrayed when I told her that I was still having flings. Hence, she left, twice.
That kinda struck me hard. I was at a loss, I didn't know what to do. I did some soul searching, consulted a couple of close friends and decided that I should stop playing, once and for all. For my sake, and hers. Somebody, who truly loved me for me, after all we've been through. After all, we rarely hear of stories where second chances are given. It wasn't easy, I must confess. To break off all ties that I had with the other girls was tough. To change from a polygamist lifestyle, to a monogamist's; excruciatingly hard. However, it wasn't impossible. Somehow, I managed to pull through. Sure, I made a couple of mistakes here and there, but with her understanding and support, we've never been happier. I'm slowly beginning to be a hopeless romantic again..
The reason why I want to share this story with you, is to show that people can change, no matter how bad he or she has been. Sure, there are a couple of rotten eggs out there who spoil the rest but that doesn't mean that there are not any good ones out there.
Miss ENOT : Miss ENOT erased some of the phrases and words caused i guess we have a much younger readers here.
But anyway, let me start of with, no matter how angry or mad are you with that person, do NOT, i repeat, do NOT call him/her names. She/He was once a part of your life and was the person who you shared your love with. For your case, Mr Mat, it happens to all human beings, when you got ditched, you tend to mingle around and have flings, and you felt great about it. Ya, most people do. But these people, never think outside the box, as in what awaits you in the future. Thanked god, you did some soul searching or else you would never find that lost soul of yours. and yes Mr Mat, you might felt betrayed, sad and devastated, and miss ENOT am sure now, you've move on. Give yourself a pat on the back. Well, my dear, all people change. From good to bad, From Bad to worst or either From worst to good. (: Cheers!
Signing Off,
Miss ENOT ♥ ¶ 1:38:00 AM 0 Comments
Date : 31 March 2010 05: 59AM
To : knowyourmats@hotmail.com
Dear TMS,
Today, was my first time reading your blog and I am not surprised to read stories about this mat cheating on that minah and that minah cheating on this mat and so on. Well, we've heard that story one time too many, stories that would make a true believer in love, a total cynic. I am, of course, speaking from experience. Believe me, I was a true believer in love and the total romance that comes with it, you know, surprise the girl with flowers at her door, writing songs for her and what not? I was all that, until I got together with this girl, N. I was a hopeless romantic, seriously. I was all about N, thinking about her 24/7, couldn't wait til the next time I'll be seeing her. However, that all changed over time.
One night, I tried calling N over and over again, texted her a million times and she didn't respond. I was freaking worried, seriously worried. I had half a mind to go over her place and check up on her until she texted me saying she accidentally fell asleep. I was ever so loving and said:
"Nvm syg.. you go back to sleep k? Muacks, I love you."
A couple of days later, she let it slip that she was actually out to town with her ex. I was furious. I was angry. But I loved her so I gave her another chance. I was so dumb.
There were a couple of things that b**** did along the way but I gotta share this other story.
We were supposed to meet one morning, but I didn't show up. Guess what that s*** did? Gave her ex a booty call!
To cut the story short, I was devastated by N and my beliefs in love were completely shattered.
Along the way, I changed into this other person completely. A player, a Casanova, whatever. I enjoyed the company and attention of women and the things we would do together. It was a colorful period in my life, though I can't quite say I'm proud of it.
One day, I started talking to this girl, K. She was my classmate back in high school actually. I thought I'd try my luck with her, try to get into her pants, so to speak. That worked out well, until I suggested to her that we just be friends with benefits. There was a reason why I suggested that. She was a player, and so was I. We would talk about our "victims" and laugh it off and shit. What I failed to realize was that she started to develop feelings for me. Needless to say, she left me for another guy, while I still keep on playing, thinking that she got bored of me.
However, after breaking up with that guy, I started talking to her again, hoping to score again. Things were working out great until I told her I'm still playing. So, she left again, for another guy, again. I thought I bored her, again. Genius, right?
After she broke up with that guy, we started talking again. This time, after much maturing, I decided to ask her why she kept disappearing like that. That was when all the outpouring of feelings happened. She told me she loved me from the beginning. Despite our playing, she decided that she loved me and still does. That was why she decided to give up her whole world for me but felt betrayed when I told her that I was still having flings. Hence, she left, twice.
That kinda struck me hard. I was at a loss, I didn't know what to do. I did some soul searching, consulted a couple of close friends and decided that I should stop playing, once and for all. For my sake, and hers. Somebody, who truly loved me for me, after all we've been through. After all, we rarely hear of stories where second chances are given. It wasn't easy, I must confess. To break off all ties that I had with the other girls was tough. To change from a polygamist lifestyle, to a monogamist's; excruciatingly hard. However, it wasn't impossible. Somehow, I managed to pull through. Sure, I made a couple of mistakes here and there, but with her understanding and support, we've never been happier. I'm slowly beginning to be a hopeless romantic again..
The reason why I want to share this story with you, is to show that people can change, no matter how bad he or she has been. Sure, there are a couple of rotten eggs out there who spoil the rest but that doesn't mean that there are not any good ones out there.
Miss ENOT : Miss ENOT erased some of the phrases and words caused i guess we have a much younger readers here.
But anyway, let me start of with, no matter how angry or mad are you with that person, do NOT, i repeat, do NOT call him/her names. She/He was once a part of your life and was the person who you shared your love with. For your case, Mr Mat, it happens to all human beings, when you got ditched, you tend to mingle around and have flings, and you felt great about it. Ya, most people do. But these people, never think outside the box, as in what awaits you in the future. Thanked god, you did some soul searching or else you would never find that lost soul of yours. and yes Mr Mat, you might felt betrayed, sad and devastated, and miss ENOT am sure now, you've move on. Give yourself a pat on the back. Well, my dear, all people change. From good to bad, From Bad to worst or either From worst to good. (: Cheers!
Signing Off,
Miss ENOT ♥ ¶ 1:38:00 AM 0 Comments
Thursday, April 1, 2010
From a heart of a lady.
At times i wanna run away from you, at times i wanna be under your arms and stay with you all night. At times i feel so disgusted looking at your face, at times i just feel that you're the most good looking Mat i ever had. I'm feeling super fickled minded. I seriously don't know what is it like to live life without you but with your attitude, i just wanna pack my stuff and leave, But my heart always says no.
I belief every single one of us had ever felt this way before. Especially when you're in a long term relationship. The ups and downs that you couple go through makes you feel all jumble up. But the fact is your heart had been sold.
At times when the love is so strong, the parents or family are against the love.
At times when the love is so strong, another party will come out from nowhere to make you both fail.
Why is the world so unfair? That's why relationship needs a water and a fire. Thats the elements of life. The painkillers to every single relationship problem.
What if you're still dating? How to know a Mat is all over you? How to know the Mat is entertaining you to fill in his free time, nothing more. How to overcome the sadness when the Mat tells you that you're not the type of girl he would wish to be with in the future.
there is no other medication on earth that you can sought after than laughter. Just laugh it out, tell yourself how fool you are. But don't laugh till you cry, tuh name bodoh. Make a joke, make your heart feel light, and thereafter, move on with an open mind.
XOXO,
typicalMATsays Owner
Peluk Cium Peluk Cium ¶ 8:07:00 PM 0 Comments
I belief every single one of us had ever felt this way before. Especially when you're in a long term relationship. The ups and downs that you couple go through makes you feel all jumble up. But the fact is your heart had been sold.
At times when the love is so strong, the parents or family are against the love.
At times when the love is so strong, another party will come out from nowhere to make you both fail.
Why is the world so unfair? That's why relationship needs a water and a fire. Thats the elements of life. The painkillers to every single relationship problem.
What if you're still dating? How to know a Mat is all over you? How to know the Mat is entertaining you to fill in his free time, nothing more. How to overcome the sadness when the Mat tells you that you're not the type of girl he would wish to be with in the future.
there is no other medication on earth that you can sought after than laughter. Just laugh it out, tell yourself how fool you are. But don't laugh till you cry, tuh name bodoh. Make a joke, make your heart feel light, and thereafter, move on with an open mind.
XOXO,
typicalMATsays Owner
Peluk Cium Peluk Cium ¶ 8:07:00 PM 0 Comments
