Saturday, March 27, 2010
Fight Club
For previous post, minah selenge focused on the mats. This time minah selenge wants to change target which is to minahs pulak. I just want to be fair since mats' views are welcome for now. Anyway, for this time minah selenge nk ckp pasal commotion between couples. It affects all ages, by the way. Actually, it is tips of how to handle the mats. But I tell you beforehand that this post is not about how to queen control. It is too possessive of the mats.
Even the happiest couples have blow-ups. But the secret to minimizing drama is knowing how to raise your gripes and focus on the solution. When to stay and talk... And when to say buh-bye.
Fight #1
You annoyed he never tells you anything and seems to have turned shrugging and grunting into an all-encompassing language
Before you crack it:
Timing is everything so pay attention to when he's most relaxed and choose that time to start your conversation. Never bring up relationship issues or ask deep questions when he's falling asleep, in a bad mood, or if he hasnt eaten. If he doesnt open up, tell him the need to communicate if he wants to keep you.
A tip for the road:
Men and women communicate differently and there's no point wasting time getting frustrated. Ultimately, you need to figure the best way to communicate with your guy and love him for who he is, including his flaws.
Fight #2
He's a serious flirt-a-holic, practicing his charm skills on anyone or anything (oldies and inanimate objects are included)
Before you crack it:
Its hard to force anyone to change their behaviour, but in the case try reminding him of how he'd feel if you were constantly flirting with other guys. Dont play games or try to teach him a lesson by coming onto his mates, just remind him how hurt he would be if you behaved the same way
A tip for the road:
Go after the type of guy you want and if its meant to be he wont knowingly make you feel insignificant. Try to remember the rasons whu you fell for him in the first place - like because he was fun and playful - and keep loving for that.
FIGHT OR FLIGHT?
Remember there's a difference between the occasional tiff and constant conflict. If your mat is making you feel insecure, lonely or misunderstood, it's probably time to give him the boot. If you've tried talking to him and he doesnt change then he's not worth any more of your time. Dont be afraid to take control and stand up for what you want and deserve.
♥, Minah selenge ¶ 9:36:00 AM
Even the happiest couples have blow-ups. But the secret to minimizing drama is knowing how to raise your gripes and focus on the solution. When to stay and talk... And when to say buh-bye.
Fight #1
You annoyed he never tells you anything and seems to have turned shrugging and grunting into an all-encompassing language
Before you crack it:
Timing is everything so pay attention to when he's most relaxed and choose that time to start your conversation. Never bring up relationship issues or ask deep questions when he's falling asleep, in a bad mood, or if he hasnt eaten. If he doesnt open up, tell him the need to communicate if he wants to keep you.
A tip for the road:
Men and women communicate differently and there's no point wasting time getting frustrated. Ultimately, you need to figure the best way to communicate with your guy and love him for who he is, including his flaws.
Fight #2
He's a serious flirt-a-holic, practicing his charm skills on anyone or anything (oldies and inanimate objects are included)
Before you crack it:
Its hard to force anyone to change their behaviour, but in the case try reminding him of how he'd feel if you were constantly flirting with other guys. Dont play games or try to teach him a lesson by coming onto his mates, just remind him how hurt he would be if you behaved the same way
A tip for the road:
Go after the type of guy you want and if its meant to be he wont knowingly make you feel insignificant. Try to remember the rasons whu you fell for him in the first place - like because he was fun and playful - and keep loving for that.
FIGHT OR FLIGHT?
Remember there's a difference between the occasional tiff and constant conflict. If your mat is making you feel insecure, lonely or misunderstood, it's probably time to give him the boot. If you've tried talking to him and he doesnt change then he's not worth any more of your time. Dont be afraid to take control and stand up for what you want and deserve.
♥, Minah selenge ¶ 9:36:00 AM
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