Friday, February 5, 2010
MAT salah atau Minah?
From: ______________________________
Sent: 04 February 2010 22: 48PM
To: knowyourmats@hotmail.com
I was with this Mat for approx 3yrs (that time la). Mat was in F&B industry so biase la ade ramai female colleagues. At first, I’m ok with his job scope as a waiter, No hal, really. Until a new waitress, masuk. Jeng2~!! Start la cerita nye…
(Background info sikit: The new waitress is a Malay girl. Younger than Mat & I. She got a son but not married. Her being younger & a single-parent, I sikit pon tak pandang rendah at her. Cause to me, kite same2 pompuan so I try to feel how she’s feeling and coping la. )
Once a while, when Mat and I have our serious chats about work and her topic arises, I do encourage Mat to guide her in her job at the same time stressing how difficult it is for her to support herself and her son. I also gave Mat a stern warning supaya ‘JGN MACAM-MACAM’ with this new waitress.
So semua macam biase between Mat and me, and Mat and his job. She as his colleague pon macam biase until I dapat tahu (from trusted sources who works WITH THEM) that they start dinner-ing and having breaks together.
At first, I’m not so suspicious because I trust Mat and her (even though I’ve never met her before). I mean, mutual trust should be build up after being together for 3yrs kan. And the reason I trusted her was because she is a woman herself. So I believe that she will not do anything that will hurt another woman.
So I had a mild confrontation with Mat and he confessed to dinner-ing and having breaks with her but that’s all. Nothing more. He assures me there is nothing more to their just-colleagues relationship. That’s fine with me.
But things started to get too obvious. Mat starts to share with me her private issues like her issues with her family, her bf, her personals, etc… like c’mon! If he knows these private infos, obviously they are so close that they’re able to share these things.
And to cut it short, her Mat pon jadi not happy with my Mat cause she keeps on singing praises of my Mat seperti: “_______ sorang aje yang understands how I really feel. Only he takes good care of me.”
Her Mat confronted my Mat and terus jadi hal besar. I got into the picture and we had a 4-person convo on the phone. To cut short, I told them all off and they better buck up on their OWN relationship issues rather than menyebok kan hal ehwal orang lain (trying to hint at my Mat).
I also slow talked to her that she should stop sharing her personal infos to my Mat and respect her Mat and my feelings. Ade jugak spats and verbal cat-fights in between (she claimed that she can take my bf from me if she wants to. Bole gitu!?) but eventually we settled it, with her concluding that she WILL NOT CONTACT MY MAT ANYMORE. I told her that I will NOT change my hp number and IF there is anything (and I mean ANYTHING) with regards to my Mat, feel free to contact me. So that’s the end of her. Or so I thought…
1yr later, Mat and I was still together. I ingat kan that waitress da takde dalam buku kite lagi but no! Apparently she managed to enter frame. Somehow they got acquainted again (tak tahu bile) and have been exchanging texts behind my back.
I was kept in the dark throughout and never once I was suspicious of him because he remained the same person all the way. But what I do noticed was that he became a little cold towards me. Showing me lesser attention and we don’t meet as often. Being simple-minded, I assumed that perhaps my Mat has been too tired with work and studies. So I didn’t really mengamok much. Then, another trusted source (bf’s acquaintance) shared with me a valuable info.
Cut short, he shared that my Mat has reacquainted with the waitress and they have been texting, fucking and going out three person (along with her son. Da macam happy family gitu kan~). Imagine my hurt and disappointment!
Ape lagi, I did what most infuriated women would do. I serang my Mat depan-depan. Takde lee-way nor high-way. I langgar; jalan terus! As usual, mati-mati my Mat deny! I don’t give a shit, really. I demanded to see his hp and to my disappointment, he has deleted ALL my pics and saved only HER pics and a pic of her son. My hands were shaking like crazy. I sent her number to my hp (from my Mat's hp) secretly, returned him back his hp and angkat kaki jalan.
Menangis rabak upon reaching home. Later that night, I called her up. Obviously she remembered me and started verbally abusing me with her lists of vulgarities, kutuk I yang bukan-bukan. Honestly, I ni pon, bukan nye baik sangat with my vocabs. But I respect other women because we’re all women ape…
Nak bitch-fit just because of ONE guy, macam tak worth it gitu. For all we know, here we are fighting with our own kind and there they are (the men) laughin and cheering on. (Sape yang bodoh? Sile jawab sendri.) But she was simply too much. So satu bakul maki dia bagi I, 2 bakul I hentam balik. Honestly, it was no use la. How things eventually ended up was, she started to bitch about my Mat to me. Crying and begging me to ‘GIVE’ my Mat to her because she loved him so much and sharing how well he has ‘taken good care of her all this while’. Darah up je as I listen. So I told her I’ll see what I can do.
Reverting back to my Mat, I trashed out everything that she has said and told him to make the FINAL choice that’s in HER favour. On my part, there is no reason why we should continue this relationship when he has been cheating behind my back. And since both of them same type, might as well la kan get together. He apologized repeatedly and hoped that we could put this terrible episode behind and start all over again (seriously, banyak cantik muka dia!?) Of course I felt the love, still. But the hurt was simply too much!
Although I was hurt, I couldn’t bring myself to hate him. I left our relationship and leave my fate with my Mat(now ex) to God. We’re still friends now and things are better this way. I’m happier because he showered MORE attention to me while it’s my turn to enjoy my single life to the fullest (with a clean record, that is!).
What I’ve learnt from here is, doesn’t mean I’ve given him my heart; he’ll give his to me. For all I know, I’m sharing his heart with someone else. Another fact I’ve learnt from this episode is NOT ALL GIRLS ARE TRULY GIRLS. I thought being women (same species), another would understand how another feels and would try NOT to do things to hurt our kind.
I’ve always believed that we would protect our own kind against the men. I’m no feminist but I hold by a certain principle whereby we should respect others and their properties (including bf/spouse). Tapi, as they always say: “Rambut sama hitam; hati lain-lain.” Disappointed, really
& to all TMS loyal readers,
I am sorry to informed you people that i won't be updating this blog as often for the next few days due to some personal problem.
Anyway, i have a question about hospital. But do they have wireless? :( ¶ 1:52:00 AM
Sent: 04 February 2010 22: 48PM
To: knowyourmats@hotmail.com
I was with this Mat for approx 3yrs (that time la). Mat was in F&B industry so biase la ade ramai female colleagues. At first, I’m ok with his job scope as a waiter, No hal, really. Until a new waitress, masuk. Jeng2~!! Start la cerita nye…
(Background info sikit: The new waitress is a Malay girl. Younger than Mat & I. She got a son but not married. Her being younger & a single-parent, I sikit pon tak pandang rendah at her. Cause to me, kite same2 pompuan so I try to feel how she’s feeling and coping la. )
Once a while, when Mat and I have our serious chats about work and her topic arises, I do encourage Mat to guide her in her job at the same time stressing how difficult it is for her to support herself and her son. I also gave Mat a stern warning supaya ‘JGN MACAM-MACAM’ with this new waitress.
So semua macam biase between Mat and me, and Mat and his job. She as his colleague pon macam biase until I dapat tahu (from trusted sources who works WITH THEM) that they start dinner-ing and having breaks together.
At first, I’m not so suspicious because I trust Mat and her (even though I’ve never met her before). I mean, mutual trust should be build up after being together for 3yrs kan. And the reason I trusted her was because she is a woman herself. So I believe that she will not do anything that will hurt another woman.
So I had a mild confrontation with Mat and he confessed to dinner-ing and having breaks with her but that’s all. Nothing more. He assures me there is nothing more to their just-colleagues relationship. That’s fine with me.
But things started to get too obvious. Mat starts to share with me her private issues like her issues with her family, her bf, her personals, etc… like c’mon! If he knows these private infos, obviously they are so close that they’re able to share these things.
And to cut it short, her Mat pon jadi not happy with my Mat cause she keeps on singing praises of my Mat seperti: “_______ sorang aje yang understands how I really feel. Only he takes good care of me.”
Her Mat confronted my Mat and terus jadi hal besar. I got into the picture and we had a 4-person convo on the phone. To cut short, I told them all off and they better buck up on their OWN relationship issues rather than menyebok kan hal ehwal orang lain (trying to hint at my Mat).
I also slow talked to her that she should stop sharing her personal infos to my Mat and respect her Mat and my feelings. Ade jugak spats and verbal cat-fights in between (she claimed that she can take my bf from me if she wants to. Bole gitu!?) but eventually we settled it, with her concluding that she WILL NOT CONTACT MY MAT ANYMORE. I told her that I will NOT change my hp number and IF there is anything (and I mean ANYTHING) with regards to my Mat, feel free to contact me. So that’s the end of her. Or so I thought…
1yr later, Mat and I was still together. I ingat kan that waitress da takde dalam buku kite lagi but no! Apparently she managed to enter frame. Somehow they got acquainted again (tak tahu bile) and have been exchanging texts behind my back.
I was kept in the dark throughout and never once I was suspicious of him because he remained the same person all the way. But what I do noticed was that he became a little cold towards me. Showing me lesser attention and we don’t meet as often. Being simple-minded, I assumed that perhaps my Mat has been too tired with work and studies. So I didn’t really mengamok much. Then, another trusted source (bf’s acquaintance) shared with me a valuable info.
Cut short, he shared that my Mat has reacquainted with the waitress and they have been texting, fucking and going out three person (along with her son. Da macam happy family gitu kan~). Imagine my hurt and disappointment!
Ape lagi, I did what most infuriated women would do. I serang my Mat depan-depan. Takde lee-way nor high-way. I langgar; jalan terus! As usual, mati-mati my Mat deny! I don’t give a shit, really. I demanded to see his hp and to my disappointment, he has deleted ALL my pics and saved only HER pics and a pic of her son. My hands were shaking like crazy. I sent her number to my hp (from my Mat's hp) secretly, returned him back his hp and angkat kaki jalan.
Menangis rabak upon reaching home. Later that night, I called her up. Obviously she remembered me and started verbally abusing me with her lists of vulgarities, kutuk I yang bukan-bukan. Honestly, I ni pon, bukan nye baik sangat with my vocabs. But I respect other women because we’re all women ape…
Nak bitch-fit just because of ONE guy, macam tak worth it gitu. For all we know, here we are fighting with our own kind and there they are (the men) laughin and cheering on. (Sape yang bodoh? Sile jawab sendri.) But she was simply too much. So satu bakul maki dia bagi I, 2 bakul I hentam balik. Honestly, it was no use la. How things eventually ended up was, she started to bitch about my Mat to me. Crying and begging me to ‘GIVE’ my Mat to her because she loved him so much and sharing how well he has ‘taken good care of her all this while’. Darah up je as I listen. So I told her I’ll see what I can do.
Reverting back to my Mat, I trashed out everything that she has said and told him to make the FINAL choice that’s in HER favour. On my part, there is no reason why we should continue this relationship when he has been cheating behind my back. And since both of them same type, might as well la kan get together. He apologized repeatedly and hoped that we could put this terrible episode behind and start all over again (seriously, banyak cantik muka dia!?) Of course I felt the love, still. But the hurt was simply too much!
Although I was hurt, I couldn’t bring myself to hate him. I left our relationship and leave my fate with my Mat(now ex) to God. We’re still friends now and things are better this way. I’m happier because he showered MORE attention to me while it’s my turn to enjoy my single life to the fullest (with a clean record, that is!).
What I’ve learnt from here is, doesn’t mean I’ve given him my heart; he’ll give his to me. For all I know, I’m sharing his heart with someone else. Another fact I’ve learnt from this episode is NOT ALL GIRLS ARE TRULY GIRLS. I thought being women (same species), another would understand how another feels and would try NOT to do things to hurt our kind.
I’ve always believed that we would protect our own kind against the men. I’m no feminist but I hold by a certain principle whereby we should respect others and their properties (including bf/spouse). Tapi, as they always say: “Rambut sama hitam; hati lain-lain.” Disappointed, really
& to all TMS loyal readers,
I am sorry to informed you people that i won't be updating this blog as often for the next few days due to some personal problem.
Anyway, i have a question about hospital. But do they have wireless? :( ¶ 1:52:00 AM
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