Name calling (?) is never appropriate in a relationship.

Of course lah kan kalau you guys call you Mat tuh baby, sayang, ayang, babylove, sugar, spice to express love is great... TypicalMATsays talking about the rude, disrespectful name calling yang kite often see in abusive relationships.

We all know name calling in a relationship is a sign of immaturity. Duuhhhh! It reminds us of time korang semua maseh anak abu abeh kacau org time recess when you didn't get things done your way. Most adults have left this silliness long ago. But not everyone!

Aside from the very immaturity of it all, it is very hurtful. One can't undo what one says. Dah bebual mane boleh liquid-liquid kan? Ingat exam? Words can hurt and name calling, often occurring during times of anger can hurt deeply. First you thought it might be a joking matter matter. But when your Mat uses it too often that might eventually hurt your feelings.

Name calling in a relationship is a reflection of the disrespect one feels for each other. So if a Mat is calling you names you know he does not respect you. (tuh name nye jantan si__)

Name calling often is a sign of a Mat needing to feel dominant and strong. That is what i truely feel. If the Mat puts you down enough he will feel better about himself. Mat with their Ego means Monster :(

If the Mat can get you to feel worthless, he will feel more powerful. The worse you feel about yourself the more he feels in control of you. You get the cycle tak?

So if your Mat start calling you pompuan sundal, eh sial, oi bodoh too frequently... maybe you should check on yourself first before doing anything. Why? If you just keep your mouth shut and not wanting to voice out. You are the one who is encouraging your Mat to call you such.

& you all do know that it is never appropriate.

XOXO